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INDELIBLE: HOW TO STOP BEING JUDGMENTAL.

posted by INDELIBLE June 10, 2017 0 comments

Ironically, the ones we truly care about are often the first to un-constructively judge us. We expend much of our time and energy judging others. It seems that by judging others we feel a sense of superiority over them which makes us temporarily feel better about ourselves it boosts our ego but this feeling is only short-lasting, whereas our judgmental attitude has tremendous negative consequences that we tend to overlook: it separates us people from one another, which in turn creates social conflict and suffering.

#1

Understand where they come from.
The basic reason why we judge people is because we don’t truly understand them. And because we don’t understand them, we are quick to call them names. The media also has helped us a lot in damaging people. The media often suggest to us what an ideal loyalist should be like or if someone isn’t using the latest this or that they are old school or that we can’t associate with someone with a poor dress sense and or that if it’s not the generally accepted way then it’s not a way to go! The media, news, trend and bias opinions are not always right, 70 to 80% of the time they’re absolutely wrong because they are seeing from both experience and an outsiders point of view. .

For example, if a person is acting in a hateful way, we call him or her “evil.” The truth is, however, that there is no person alive who is absolutely good or evil, and by calling them so, we build a wall between us and them that doesn’t allow us to get to truly know who they are. A person who is behaving in a hateful way in reality, is nothing but a person with a harsh past — a person who has been through difficulties and undergone traumatic experiences, and who tries to deal with life this way.

By putting yourself in people’s shoes and understanding their story — that is, their background and the conditions they currently live in — you’ll start to develop a non-judgmental attitude towards them that will help you to see them under a new light — you will see them clearly, as they are, without prejudices that distort their true self. That is if you are willing to actually see. .

I said once in one of my past write-up about ADVANCE FORGIVENESS that no one wants to learn from someone they resent. And your life is a bit backward if you are not teachable yourself. Humility is so beautiful that only the extremely pretty ones run to its source.

#2

Accept them with their flaws

It is an undeniable fact that each and every human being has flaws and makes mistakes in life. No one is or can be perfect and therefore we should not expect people to be as such.

Many times we are judgemental of others because they are not what we expect them to be like or because they don’t fit into the idealized image that we’ve created of them. The reality is that every person on Earth is a unique individual and we need to accept people as they are, without imposing our ideas of how they should be.

We need to embrace others with the totality of our being, and only once we do so, can true compassion arise from within us. Of course, that doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t criticize the ideas and behavior of people, give them our advice, or help them in any way we can to improve their quality of life. But we need to realize that everyone is facing problems and challenges on their life’s journey, and that to judge them for not living perfectly well is nothing but immature and unkind.

#3

Love them without conditions.

What do we gain by judging others and being harsh on them? Nothing. Judging doesn’t help anyone in any way. It only helps us build walls around our hearts that prevent us from connecting and building healthy relationships with people.

It’s about time we break those walls and destroy the illusion of separation. It’s about time we embrace one another by showing unconditional love. By judging others, we become separated from them, and only love can help us open our hearts and feel united again.
Love is the ultimate understanding and the only way to heal ourselves and create a more beautiful world.

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